Biblical Rape

I've been reading a lot on the internet today. I started with this post. (Also, just fyi, Incongruous Circumspection is an awesome blog that you should read ALL of.) Then of course I went to the post he is referring to, here. I did manage to read it but apparently since then it's been taken down. If it was because it was a horrible post, then yay! If it's so they stop getting bashed on the web, I suppose that's understandable. Being a thorough type of gal I also looked at this one, this one, and also this one. Here is the part that has been causing such controversy:

A final aspect of rape that should be briefly mentioned is perhaps closer to home. Because we have forgotten the biblical concepts of true authority and submission, or more accurately, have rebelled against them, we have created a climate in which caricatures of authority and submission intrude upon our lives with violence.
When we quarrel with the way the world is, we find that the world has ways of getting back at us. In other words, however we try, the sexual act cannot be made into an egalitarian pleasuring party. A man penetrates, conquers, colonizes, plants. A woman receives, surrenders, accepts. This is of course offensive to all egalitarians, and so our culture has rebelled against the concept of authority and submission in marriage. This means that we have sought to suppress the concepts of authority and submission as they relate to the marriage bed.
But we cannot make gravity disappear just because we dislike it, and in the same way we find that our banished authority and submission comes back to us in pathological forms. This is what lies behind sexual “bondage and submission games,” along with very common rape fantasies. Men dream of being rapists, and women find themselves wistfully reading novels in which someone ravishes the “soon to be made willing” heroine. Those who deny they have any need for water at all will soon find themselves lusting after polluted water, but water nonetheless.
True authority and true submission are therefore an erotic necessity. When authority is honored according to the word of God it serves and protects — and gives enormous pleasure. When it is denied, the result is not “no authority,” but an authority which devours. - Doug Wilson

Doug Wilson and I of course are going to disagree right off the bat because he believes in God and I do not. That isn't exactly what all the hullabaloo is about, though. The way this quote is worded could be (and has, all over the internet) taken as espousing marital rape. After all, the man "conquers" and the woman "surrenders." He has insisted that he is not espousing rape at all, and for now I will take his word for that. Of course, we have no word on if Wilson, like many patriarchal partisans, believes a man cannot rape his wife. It's not a very modern view. It's not a kind or loving view at all. It is, however, a biblical view. Granted, the same biblical view says that a woman cannot rape her husband either. Their bodies belong to each other, that view says, so they are only taking what is already there. Like I said, thought, we don't know if Doug Wilson believes that particularly revolting bit of the Bible or not. He certainly does believe that the woman must submit to the man in all things, including sex.